Thursday, August 14, 2008

Am I phobiaphilic?

As always facts first: I am allergic to/scared of 3 things:

1)Thermocol (just ask my inconsiderate colleagues)

2)Pregnant women (not allergic, but as a kid, I was a little scared when I saw them. This fear seems to have faded away though. )

3)Weddings.(A not so inexplicable allergy)

Based on historic data, I can, with confidence, tell you that even my best efforts at making people understand the first 2 phobias would be futile. Hence, I am jumping to the last one right away.

Attending a wedding is the last thing I'd do on mother Earth and I had taken an oath long ago, that the only wedding I'll attend next is my own. However, God always has his own plans and he has never allowed things to happen in my will. I have been attending a few of them, thanks to parental pressure.

Reasons why I hate weddings and also discourage people not to attend them:

1) You will not know 99.97836521% of the people who attend the wedding. Sometimes, you may not even know the bride and groom and the only reason you are required to attend it is either because,

a) You and the bride would've played hide and seek in the same colony 15 years ago,

b) your mom and the groom's mom would've met each other in a neighboring supermarket a few weeks back.


b) the groom is your very very close relative. By south Indian standards, a close relative can include someone who is your grandfather's cousin brother's son's sister-in-law's husband's sister's second-cousin(phew)

2) You'll encounter two different kinds of people.

a) GROUP 1: (Consisting of people who have seen you recently, say 1 year back)

Regardless of how grossly fat you've become, they will ask you that one typical question: "ayyo! aen romba elachhi poitte?" ("why have you lost so much weight?").

One stare at my mum and she is quick to say "They're just concerned". Sure.

b) GROUP 2: (Consisting of people who only remember seeing you in chaddies)

"adaengaapppaa evlo perusaa valandhuttaaan..chinna vayasule paathadhu" ("wow how much he has grown..saw him when he was a child..he was soooo small then").

Do they expect a child, not to ever grow up? Ridic.

3) Your spinal cord gets the maximum burden during weddings. Old people from the 18 hundreds(1800s) who stood the test of time attending marriages right from your great grand father's to your cousin's weddings fill up the first few seats of the wedding. And why are they there? To bless people with wealth, health and prosperity.

I would have no choice in such situations but to fall flat 180 degrees on the floor and wait for them to finish scattering the yellow rice grains on my head.

Simultaneously they recite a host of cliched "blessings" like "live for 100 years" (used to Wonder if 100 was some sort of blessing-allowance limit and after that you should rather, kick the bucket). Only after that are you allowed to get up.

The cliched blessings would sometimes be way too templated that it ain't the right blessing for you! Stuff like:

"nalla perya perya padipellam padichi peryaa doctoraa varanum" (may you study "big big studies" and become a "big doctor")


"nallaa sekka seve nu oru ponnu unakku amayanum" (may you get a fair girl to marry). What if you already had a girlfriend who was dark?" and what is the funda behind blessing someone with only a fair girl? Are all dark girls doomed to be kept out of old blokes' blessings? We must all vehemently protest against this racial blessing :)

4) The most dreaded part in any wedding is the Advance Booking System. No, I'm not talking about trains here. Talking about wedlock!

Jobless aunties  are always on the lookout for prospective son-in-laws. It may seem too early for both the girl and the guy but should the right parameters match, they are quick to grab the opportunity a deal and get their daughters introduced.

But before all that is the secret interview. They first ask you if you are an Engineer. Most guys pass this criteria and they move on to the second round. Next is the company you work for. Like the sign which reads "All major credit cards accepted", the aunties have an implicit agreed-upon database of software companies that are recognized and accepted for wedlock. I would proudly say that Bye-Bye was one of them

After ensuring that you are a qualified candidate, the aunties bring along the equally embarrassed daughter (always noticed the degree of embarrassment on the girl's face when they were being introduced to my cousins) and start off by saying something like "She is my daughter.Very intelligent girl. She also works for this great company. Earning good salary. She is a very bold and confident girl etc etc)

I always had my sympathies for the girl.

5) Gifting is mandatory in any wedding and it has to happen on the stage only. Being photographed is acceptable as it requires only a second from your side. But standing next to the couple, doing nothing but forcing a smile for 100 darned seconds is a crazy idea.

In this case, I had my sympathies for the couple. Meeting an entire jing-bang of blokes and posing with them is clearly catastrophic considering the amount of people and the amount of jewelery they adorn . Not to forget the one ton garland each of them wear which almost covers their entire body.

6) Leaving the wedding hall without having food is completely unethical for reasons beyond the scope of my understanding.

Anyways,have you ever thought of killing the guy who flashes bright yellow light on your face when you were eating in the dining hall? Why the fuck would anyone want to videotape and record you when you're having food? Well, I still don't get the funda. Anyways, such videos are a breach of privacy and must be banned with immediate effect!

As far as weddings are concerned, I'd recommend you to attend it only if you have a bunch of friends to go with. Sharing the misery is surely way more fun?


g. said...

Dude, you really do HATE weddings! Maybe even more than I do :)

Joshua said...

good stuff!

Mukesh said...

i personally like weddings...especially if its someone close...n if there is alcohol, nothing like it. Cheers!! (to more alcohol)

Cess said...

HI-LA-RIOUS the wedding part, I still did not get why Thermocol is scaring u especially when i google it, cause i did not what it was, so i was expecting an ugly disease or the scariest animal... how surprise I was when i saw the pics:) As for the wedding, i would love to see an Indian wedding, u should see a french one, we more into food, alcohol and dancing with stupid songs ;) As for the pictures during lunch, think about the profit you can make from it, like blackmailing for instance ;)

Rohit said...

looks like a lot has come out of experience....i can see the pain and anguish....btw u being an engineer and also attending weddings can we expect some news from ur aunties soon??????:P

Manasa said...

funne!!! All so true.
point number 4 and 5....very true.
but you know its not just the parents. just about any lady in that age group. somehow that seem to be their mission in life at that point of time. " Oh I know this guy..."

Me said...

romba nalla pesida Vigneshaa!! :D

@Mr.Auto, "good stuff"?? LOL. (is this what you do when people ask you to look at their blog posts?)

@Ro, what is it with your curiosity and eagerness about quickly getting everyone married!?!

@Manasa :D

lovell said...

machaaa... u gotta come for a goan wedding..

and afraid of preg women??!? wth is wrong with u??? i find preg women hot...

Ravi said...

What a post! Commenting on a blog after a very long time, but this post one surely demands one!

Well, like many things, I don't understand weddings. They always seem so, how to put it... unreal. But what you said, are so very true. I go through the exact experience every time, expect that I don't find any people of my own age (male or female, probably why I don't get aunties introducing them to me, or may be some other reason). I end up getting bored to the point of desperation. All I remember of weddings is me cribbing the whole time to my Mom, and she cursing me on the way back. Ah, but I guess this is because all the people of my damn age group from any family I meet are in the US (doing MS).

Hmmm... I don't think I made any sensible or conclusive observation here. Ahhh, never mind, but awesome stuff, Vig. Keep 'em coming.

Cassey said...

hahahaha... thr are a more things u are afraid of yup yup... i know u'l overcome de preg one soon... and puhleeez!!!!... for heaven's sake who asked you to go to weddings whr u dont know ppl????!!!!
lol am happy u enjoyed manju's and gautam's wedding .. peace out!

Vicky said...

well i dont think im scared of anything else. what ya talkin bout?

Manasa said...

@ravi LOL. I guess those are the perils of being the only child. Can totally relate to that one." cribbing to mom..."

M0H!TH said...

hey.. dude reading your posts makes me feel like I am india again its nicde to see some one feel the same way about weddings as I dp... My personal favourite are the relatives who have seen u in "chaddis" as u put it.

Brity said...

great post Vicky!!!!relate to everthing you said abt the wedding...especially the photo sessions;-)

anand said...

scene machi !! best of urs i guess

Raghu said...


Afrin said...

Haha, but all this is just the fun part! Imagine weddings if they didn't have all this dramatic action!

Anonymous said...

Dude you almost killed my love for weddings vigs :D

"wow how much he has grown..saw him when he was a child..he was soooo small then"... that one is seriously beyond my understanding too I mean I get real violent thoughts when ppl say that to me.

"may you get a fair girl to marry".. obsession with fairness... my grandmom actually said " I like only white ppl I do not like black ppl " to my cousins husband(an American by the way):D